Remedy for a SHITTY DAY

[Steve Johnson]

Reading this thread got a day that started off wrong flipped around quick-like...thanks, @Godfather I will typically try and recognize that I'm in a shit place (psychologically), do my best to objectively assess the situation and determine if it is me/my outlook or an external factor beyond my control at the root. 95%+ of the time it is me and I need to adjust my angle of attack. I consider people I know personally who would do anything for everything I am taking for granted in that moment - my wheelchair bound mother who is non-ambulatory with MS....and recently retired from pastoring two churches then published a book is a constant example/inspiration. Friends who have passed on and no longer have the opportunity to have a good day. That gets my orientation correct, then it's all about visible progress...work of any type or kind, reloading, slinging some lead and/or arrows or just putting some road behind me on the bike.

 

[gelhaargerald]

Sharing a bottle of wine with my wife (she says I am terrible at sharing, therefore it becomes 2 at times). That can take the edge off of a bad day.

Other than I just have to do something and get moving.

In sales and you have a lot of wins and loses. The longer you get into it the loses hurt more than the wins feel good, its just part of it. I have lost sleep over it and then a few weeks go by and you look back and wonder why the fuck you let something like that cause you to lose sleep. I guess the older I get I just let them kind work themself up.

If I wake up the next morning I am winning!

 

[Chad Adams]

Mine is the opposite of a shitty day. Today I retired from 2 careers covering 45 years. Looking forward to many days on the range instead of commuting 1 1/2 hours. Starting out tomorrow to pick up a corvette in South Carolina!

That's a solid day brother!

 

[Godfather]

Reading this thread got a day that started off wrong flipped around quick-like...thanks, @Godfather I will typically try and recognize that I'm in a shit place (psychologically), do my best to objectively assess the situation and determine if it is me/my outlook or an external factor beyond my control at the root. 95%+ of the time it is me and I need to adjust my angle of attack. I consider people I know personally who would do anything for everything I am taking for granted in that moment - my wheelchair bound mother who is non-ambulatory with MS....and recently retired from pastoring two churches then published a book is a constant example/inspiration. Friends who have passed on and no longer have the opportunity to have a good day. That gets my orientation correct, then it's all about visible progress...work of any type or kind, reloading, slinging some lead and/or arrows or just putting some road behind me on the bike.

Well said @Steve Johnson - I read somewhere this week a statement that poorly recounted said as follows: living too far in the future has a tendency to create anxiety, with all the uncertainty; living too much in the past tends to create depression, with over thinking choices and actions beyond reflection, learning and applying that forward; living in the present gives us the focus on the here and now, the things we can control or influence, and a path to peace, and joy. Someone well smarter than me said it, I just thought it was a good frame of reference, and useful if the day starts out SHITTY.

 

[Godfather]

Sharing a bottle of wine with my wife (she says I am terrible at sharing, therefore it becomes 2 at times). That can take the edge off of a bad day.

Other than I just have to do something and get moving.

In sales and you have a lot of wins and loses. The longer you get into it the loses hurt more than the wins feel good, its just part of it. I have lost sleep over it and then a few weeks go by and you look back and wonder why the fuck you let something like that cause you to lose sleep. I guess the older I get I just let them kind work themself up.

If I wake up the next morning I am winning!

@gelhaargerald - agree, the next morning is like getting to put a new quarter in the pinball machine of life, you get to play again.

 

[YETI]

Well said @Steve Johnson - I read somewhere this week a statement that poorly recounted said as follows: living too far in the future has a tendency to create anxiety, with all the uncertainty; living too much in the past tends to create depression, with over thinking choices and actions beyond reflection, learning and applying that forward; living in the present gives us the focus on the here and now, the things we can control or influence, and a path to peace, and joy. Someone well smarter than me said it, I just thought it was a good frame of reference, and useful if the day starts out SHITTY.

I love that and need to apply it to my life

 

[Al "Shifty" Schultz]

Some great advice from @Godfather as always! I have to be honest; I can't actually remember my last shitty day. I suspect it was likely during my custody battle/divorce a couple years back. I was awarded full custody of my boys in 2024 due to my ex's substance abuse, alcoholism, and criminal issues. She's been doing better and getting more time with the kiddos which is good for all. I retired in December 2024 and started my own PI business and ever since every day has been like a holiday, every meal a feast. But, when I feel the need to unwind or relax, or have something I want to think through I find it therapeutic working around the farm or riding my horse. Lately it's been working in the garden. I didn't have a winter here to speak of this past "winter" (no snow and mild temps for the first time ever!) ... and now I'm about a month and a half ahead on my garden, flower beds, raspberry patch and blueberry patch. I'm already looking forward to the bounty it provides. Last year I ended up with over 150 pounds of potatoes, 50 pounds of corn, 30 pounds of onions, etc.
This year I've already got snap peas, beans, garlic, chives, plus all my herbs growing! In the greenhouse I've got tomatoes, peppers and cilantro already growing.

 

[gelhaargerald]

Al your garden looks great. I am good at planting it and getting it rolling pretty well. Terrible at keeping it weeded and harvested.

 

[Al "Shifty" Schultz]

Al your garden looks great. I am good at planting it and getting it rolling pretty well. Terrible at keeping it weeded and harvested.

Thanks . I try to set everything up so it's less maintenance. I have 1600 feet of underground irrigation and sprinkler system that I put in 10 years ago so during the summer the yard, flowers and garden all get watered automatically. In the fall after harvest I pull everything out (corn stalks, potatoes, etc.) and put plastic over the raised beds. Keeps the weeds down. I'll admit when I was working full time keeping the weeds at bay was a challenge.