What’s the one moment in your life that should’ve killed you, but didn’t?

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Got my ass kicked pretty good by a camel once.

Actually, he just picked me up by my head and tossed me.

We had a discussion once I was feeling better, me him and an axe handle…not that he gave a shit
 
In a past life, I was a social worker who investigated alleged child neglect. This particular case involved a large family allegedly living with no heat and a grab bag of environmental neglect. Allegedly. I already knew the parents—repeat customers, if you will—so I called the local police to stand by. Because nothing says Tuesday at work like a safety plan.

I arrived before the police. While I was waiting in my car, ol’ boy decided to come outside and chat. I got out of the car because I usually relied on the dumb blonde routine, which had served me well up until this exact moment. But the meth be absolutely methin that day.

He stormed back into the house, grabbed a baseball bat, and came at me swingin. He was about 6’3”, a solid foot taller than me, and somehow still stout despite his choice in recreational activities. Since my car door was still within arms reach and I didn’t feel like doing extra paperwork, I got back in my car and thought maybe I could play a little here kitty kitty (work smarter not harder) by driving around until police got there.

I drove down the street a little ways where I could still see him. And because we all know being under the influence of controlled substances ALWAYS enhances the judgment and decision-making area of your frontal lobe, he decided to chase me down the road… while his kids scattered through the neighborhood. In December. 30 degree weather. No coats. Just vibes.

By the time the police arrived, everyone had vanished. Poof. Houdini would have been proud.. 🪄 The house was a rental, so we got permission from the landlord to go inside. Turns out they were using the electric oven to heat the home—very resourceful. When we opened the cabinets to check for food, the shelves started moving. And we all started singing La cucaracha as we quickly exited the premises. We didn’t have to worry about shutting the door though, He had already taken it off the hinges during one of his field trips outside to visit with me. So that was nice of him. Teamwork makes the dream work.

The police condemned the building. After some digging, we found the family at a relative’s house, and the kids went on to live much better lives.

Immediately afterward, I took a week-long trip to Boston. I drank like I was auditioning for a role on Cheers, probably did some things I’m grateful I don’t remember, saw some cool places, thought seriously about moving there to become one of the colonial actors, and have no idea how I got back to the hotel at least two of those nights. But honestly? Given the circumstances, that felt like the outcome we all wanted.
 
In a past life, I was a social worker who investigated alleged child neglect. This particular case involved a large family allegedly living with no heat and a grab bag of environmental neglect. Allegedly. I already knew the parents—repeat customers, if you will—so I called the local police to stand by. Because nothing says Tuesday at work like a safety plan.

I arrived before the police. While I was waiting in my car, ol’ boy decided to come outside and chat. I got out of the car because I usually relied on the dumb blonde routine, which had served me well up until this exact moment. But the meth be absolutely methin that day.

He stormed back into the house, grabbed a baseball bat, and came at me swingin. He was about 6’3”, a solid foot taller than me, and somehow still stout despite his choice in recreational activities. Since my car door was still within arms reach and I didn’t feel like doing extra paperwork, I got back in my car and thought maybe I could play a little here kitty kitty (work smarter not harder) by driving around until police got there.

I drove down the street a little ways where I could still see him. And because we all know being under the influence of controlled substances ALWAYS enhances the judgment and decision-making area of your frontal lobe, he decided to chase me down the road… while his kids scattered through the neighborhood. In December. 30 degree weather. No coats. Just vibes.

By the time the police arrived, everyone had vanished. Poof. Houdini would have been proud.. 🪄 The house was a rental, so we got permission from the landlord to go inside. Turns out they were using the electric oven to heat the home—very resourceful. When we opened the cabinets to check for food, the shelves started moving. And we all started singing La cucaracha as we quickly exited the premises. We didn’t have to worry about shutting the door though, He had already taken it off the hinges during one of his field trips outside to visit with me. So that was nice of him. Teamwork makes the dream work.

The police condemned the building. After some digging, we found the family at a relative’s house, and the kids went on to live much better lives.

Immediately afterward, I took a week-long trip to Boston. I drank like I was auditioning for a role on Cheers, probably did some things I’m grateful I don’t remember, saw some cool places, thought seriously about moving there to become one of the colonial actors, and have no idea how I got back to the hotel at least two of those nights. But honestly? Given the circumstances, that felt like the outcome we all wanted.
I wasn't sure which response was appropriate, I laughed and was sad and have definitely felt your pain. Great story
 
Growing up, my dad was a cop. He always said, "You have to laugh. Otherwise, you die." Dark humor has been my constant life companion
Same. My aunt and uncle were police officers, I was a dispatcher for 5 years then social work. Dark humor is in my DNA. If I’m not sarcastic with you, I probably don’t like you 😆
 
1977 July 7 , I was a new Investigator at the Calcasieu Cameron Parish’s DA’s Office. Went to an Alice Cooper Concert with a PD Detective. Alice jumped out of the Limo with two bottles of Jack and a white residue under his nose. Along with two GIANT security guys. We thought about how long to get a scientific report on the powder before we wrecked the concert and looked for trouble else where. We went out front onto the stage and there were 25 bikers out there carrying various unsafe weapons. Oh yeah all had an old lady with him. I picked up a box and we waded in collecting unsafe items. No problem except the women were calling their men pussies. One told her guy if he didn’t stick me she would! The she asked what I thought of that. I told her I would shoot her in the face. Her guy told her to shut up and quietly gave me his blade. Her name was Peggy. Its scratched in the blade. Still have that knife somewhere I think.
 
3rd year of college was a doozy. Was playing football, wouldn't have started right away but I was set to play a lot. It was the best off season training I had done, gained about 35 lbs of muscle that summer. It was the last 2 a days of camp. Coach said he would go easy on us in the AM so we went half shelfs. During position work I came off soft because we were half shells, huge mistake never go easy. Guy across from me got into my body stepped on my foot, foot stayed body/knee went the other direction. It was just a dislocated knee cap and they go back in on their own. It was the fifth time I had done it two on one knee third on this one. Took me a month to come back this time, the other times I played minutes later.

Came back to practice for a week and then got mono. I missed 3 weeks of school sitting in my room half dead. Lost 40-50lbs and all my strength.

Finally got back to school for a week and started to feel better. I was caught back up on my school work driving back to our house from Campus. While driving back I was reviewing some of my assignment, ya kind of like playing on a phone these days. I looked up in time to see a fully stopped bucket truck. Thankfully because I wasn't wearing a seatbelt. I had enough time to hug the steering wheel. Don't think I ever got on the break. It folded the steering wheel in half and pushed the engine hard enough it cracked all the shit inside the truck.

I have a hard head, don't think I actually got knocked out but I remember holding some napkins on my head that was barely bleeding from the windshield. They helped me into a ambulance and I got picked up a few hours later by one of my buddies.

Sad part is I still didn't wear a seatbelt until I watch someone else crash and die.
On the note about not wearing a seatbelt. My wife and i were on a bike trip through Washington state, stopped at a light where the road to our right terminated at the road we were on. We heard tires screeching to our right. On the road coming into the intersection, at the top of the hill to our right, a car missed the turn, and went off the road down the hill. I still have a snapshot of the view of the driver in shorts and no shirt flipping through the air with the car rotating thru the air behind him. No doubt he did not make it as the car likely landed on him at the bottom of the hill (which was out of our line of site). I never drove without one after that.
 
In a past life, I was a social worker who investigated alleged child neglect. This particular case involved a large family allegedly living with no heat and a grab bag of environmental neglect. Allegedly. I already knew the parents—repeat customers, if you will—so I called the local police to stand by. Because nothing says Tuesday at work like a safety plan.

I arrived before the police. While I was waiting in my car, ol’ boy decided to come outside and chat. I got out of the car because I usually relied on the dumb blonde routine, which had served me well up until this exact moment. But the meth be absolutely methin that day.

He stormed back into the house, grabbed a baseball bat, and came at me swingin. He was about 6’3”, a solid foot taller than me, and somehow still stout despite his choice in recreational activities. Since my car door was still within arms reach and I didn’t feel like doing extra paperwork, I got back in my car and thought maybe I could play a little here kitty kitty (work smarter not harder) by driving around until police got there.

I drove down the street a little ways where I could still see him. And because we all know being under the influence of controlled substances ALWAYS enhances the judgment and decision-making area of your frontal lobe, he decided to chase me down the road… while his kids scattered through the neighborhood. In December. 30 degree weather. No coats. Just vibes.

By the time the police arrived, everyone had vanished. Poof. Houdini would have been proud.. 🪄 The house was a rental, so we got permission from the landlord to go inside. Turns out they were using the electric oven to heat the home—very resourceful. When we opened the cabinets to check for food, the shelves started moving. And we all started singing La cucaracha as we quickly exited the premises. We didn’t have to worry about shutting the door though, He had already taken it off the hinges during one of his field trips outside to visit with me. So that was nice of him. Teamwork makes the dream work.

The police condemned the building. After some digging, we found the family at a relative’s house, and the kids went on to live much better lives.

Immediately afterward, I took a week-long trip to Boston. I drank like I was auditioning for a role on Cheers, probably did some things I’m grateful I don’t remember, saw some cool places, thought seriously about moving there to become one of the colonial actors, and have no idea how I got back to the hotel at least two of those nights. But honestly? Given the circumstances, that felt like the outcome we all wanted.
My respect goes to you. I have never been a first responder/social worker – I think people underestimate the random psychological/sociological messes people in your (previous) line of work encounter on a pretty consistent basis.
 
My respect goes to you. I have never been a first responder/social worker – I think people underestimate the random psychological/sociological messes people in your (previous) line of work encounter on a pretty consistent basis.
I appreciate that—it was a very rewarding job and fit my personality well. I did that for about 2.5 years, got pregnant with my oldest and God opened a different door that allowed me to be with him more, otherwise I would probably still be doing that. You are correct— there are unfortunately many other stories I have like that, but thankfully, there are also really good people willing to combat all the evil in this world. Thankful for our military and first responders, good always wins.
 
On the note about not wearing a seatbelt. My wife and i were on a bike trip through Washington state, stopped at a light where the road to our right terminated at the road we were on. We heard tires screeching to our right. On the road coming into the intersection, at the top of the hill to our right, a car missed the turn, and went off the road down the hill. I still have a snapshot of the view of the driver in shorts and no shirt flipping through the air with the car rotating thru the air behind him. No doubt he did not make it as the car likely landed on him at the bottom of the hill (which was out of our line of site). I never drove without one after that.
This reminds me of a story my father-in-law would tell that had a happier ending. While he was in law school, he went out drinking martinis with a friend. He said they drank to the point where people walking past them had "vapor trails." They picked up two sorority girls and somehow fit all four of them in his friend's MG convertible. Shortly after setting off wherever they were going, the MG went off the road and down a hill. Because the convertible top was down, all four of them flew out during the first rotation and walked away without any serious injuries.
 
Philippines. Early 90's. Gun to my head with my wife next to me. Looking for either the right moment to draw my weapon or get us out of there. Talked him down and di di'd out of there.

Was one helluva a dive trip...
Similar story, Philippines, 1986 during the Marcos Rebellion... we were an elite team of Marines and had 48 hours of liberty but the town outside the base was under martial law and there was a curfew and no one was authorized beyond the downtown area outside the main gate. We took our liberty as soon as the gates opened during a monsoon rainstorm. Vendors everywhere selling umbrellas. A buddy of mine Brian Sletterink bought a compact umbrella, the kind that when you hit a button it extends and simultaneously opens. We rented a jeepney and headed off to White Rock Beach Resort, way outside our authorized area for liberty. During the trip there was just some random Aussie merchant marine that hopped on, our little group and some big, heavyset Pilipino with a thick neck and mean scar across his face. When we arrived, Mr. Mean Mug produced a snub-nosed revolver and asked what was in our wallets, this was years before Capitol One was a thing, and though I didn't shit myself, I was turtling.

My buddy Doug was busy talking to the guy trying to reason with him and I was angling to try and get within arm's reach when Brian pointed his umbrella at the guy and said, " Bang bang motherf#*ker!" and hit the button, deploying the umbrella. I thought we were dead, but the guy just started laughing and put his pistol away and called us "loco marines". If the trip ended there that would have been enough, but we partied on the beach eventually riding a bangka boat out to an island. I linked up with a pretty lady, climbed a coconut tree for her and we drank pitchers of bullfrog and had sex on the beach until I passed into oblivion. The next morning (almost afternoon I should say), I awoke to Brian kicking me and the guys shouting that we had to get a move on to make it back to base. I had sand everywhere and was chafed worse than when we had been training in the surf at Coronado. By the looks of me, I recall thinking that the beautiful woman who had been lying beside me had to have sand packed in places so deep she'd eventually be pissing pearls.

We caught a bangka boat back to the resort, then waited forever for a bus to take us back to town and the base. On the bus ride there was a checkpoint and some guys with guns stopped the bus, walked down the aisle and requested that each of us "Americans" pay a toll. To add insult to injury, some random chicken shit on my bare leg on the bus ride. When we finally got back to town at the bus depot some Pilipino police (or military?) accosted us, stuck guns in our faces, lined us up with our backs to the wall of the building and their leader commenced to pistol whipping the Aussie. My turtle returned. I didn't understand a word of what had been said, but the MP's arrived a little while later and escorted us back to base after much shouting. The MP's stated that the Aussie had beat some security guard that confronted him for glad handing the "buy me drinky" girls at Club Cal Jam prior to linking up with us and heading out of town. I can't look at pearls to this day and not remember that trip.

The attached pic is of me (not on this trip) but from the same era, 1986 in my USMC issue swim/dive trunks. Maybe FE should bring back the old recon shorts in Rhodesian camo, lol!
 

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Several...

But this was a weird one.


The largest recorded potential suicide explosives truck (over 60,000lbs of explosives) was almost detonated outside our small forward operating base in Afghanistan near Gardez.

He pulled off the road next to our small base. Looking suspicious, our guys at the gate went to check him out. In a panic he tried to detonate but messed it up–and our guys shot him in his cab. He was then brought to an Afghan hospital in Gardez proper for treatment... but he ultimately blew himself up with a grenade in his hospital bed.

What makes it weird/freaky for me is that I was asleep–and my sleep hut was on the base-side of the hesco barrier right where he decided to pull over and try and detonate.

If he successfully detonated, I would have literally been incinerated in my sleep.

Basically... I would have "never woken up."

It's one thing to see death coming... but to never wake up? Weird one.
Holy hell, thats fuckin' gnarly
 
April 2018.

It wasn’t anything dramatic. No firefight. No wreck. Just a normal guys night out at the casino after a long week. Steakhouse dinner, gambling for a few hours, the usual kind of night you don’t think twice about. We drove back to the family farm late and I went to bed like I had a hundred times before.

My next conscious moment was confusion.

There was a bright light in my face and my brother in- aw was standing in my bedroom. He’s law enforcement, so seeing him with a flashlight wasn’t unusual. Seeing him in my bedroom in the middle of the night was. Nothing about it made sense. I couldn’t piece together how I’d gotten from going to bed to him being there.

What I didn’t know until hours later was that I’d been having seizures right there beside my relatively recently named fiancée. Multiple. Long enough and bad enough that paramedics had been called and were already loading me onto a gurney.

I remember flashes of the ambulance. Pieces of conversations. Trying to understand what was happening while not really being able to stay present long enough to process it. Somewhere during that ride, I seized again.

Around 4 in the morning, after a battery of tests and drifting in and out, a doctor told me I had a brain tumor. Just like that. No buildup. No soft delivery. No real options. They were already deciding whether to do an emergency craniotomy right there or medevac me by helicopter to another surgical center.

They ended up keeping me local. Two brain surgeries followed. Treatments. Recovery that took longer than anyone could really predict. There were multiple points in that chain where things could’ve gone differently. Where statistically, I shouldn’t have walked away from it.

But I did.

Most days now I feel normal. Work. Responsibilities. Land. Life. But there’s always that awareness sitting in the background, that it wasn’t 100% resected, and none of this time is guaranteed. Everything since then has been time I wasn’t promised.

Call it luck. Call it stubbornness. Call it God.

Either way, I’m still here.

When you stop assuming you’ll wake up tomorrow, you start living in a way that makes it count if you don’t.
 

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April 2018.

It wasn’t anything dramatic. No firefight. No wreck. Just a normal guys night out at the casino after a long week. Steakhouse dinner, gambling for a few hours, the usual kind of night you don’t think twice about. We drove back to the family farm late and I went to bed like I had a hundred times before.

My next conscious moment was confusion.

There was a bright light in my face and my brother in- aw was standing in my bedroom. He’s law enforcement, so seeing him with a flashlight wasn’t unusual. Seeing him in my bedroom in the middle of the night was. Nothing about it made sense. I couldn’t piece together how I’d gotten from going to bed to him being there.

What I didn’t know until hours later was that I’d been having seizures right there beside my relatively recently named fiancée. Multiple. Long enough and bad enough that paramedics had been called and were already loading me onto a gurney.

I remember flashes of the ambulance. Pieces of conversations. Trying to understand what was happening while not really being able to stay present long enough to process it. Somewhere during that ride, I seized again.

Around 4 in the morning, after a battery of tests and drifting in and out, a doctor told me I had a brain tumor. Just like that. No buildup. No soft delivery. No real options. They were already deciding whether to do an emergency craniotomy right there or medevac me by helicopter to another surgical center.

They ended up keeping me local. Two brain surgeries followed. Treatments. Recovery that took longer than anyone could really predict. There were multiple points in that chain where things could’ve gone differently. Where statistically, I shouldn’t have walked away from it.

But I did.

Most days now I feel normal. Work. Responsibilities. Land. Life. But there’s always that awareness sitting in the background, that it wasn’t 100% resected, and none of this time is guaranteed. Everything since then has been time I wasn’t promised.

Call it luck. Call it stubbornness. Call it God.

Either way, I’m still here.

When you stop assuming you’ll wake up tomorrow, you start living in a way that makes it count if you don’t.
Holy hell man!! Glad you're still with us even though I don't know you. Had a close friend die of a glioblastoma a couple of years ago, brain tumors are serious shit!
 
Holy hell man!! Glad you're still with us even though I don't know you. Had a close friend die of a glioblastoma a couple of years ago, brain tumors are serious shit!
Since I had my diagnosis it seems like brain tumors are for more common then I ever imagined, everyone seems to know someone who's gone through it. Sorry to be hear about your friend, but we just keep living the best we can so they are remembered am I right
 
April 2018.

It wasn’t anything dramatic. No firefight. No wreck. Just a normal guys night out at the casino after a long week. Steakhouse dinner, gambling for a few hours, the usual kind of night you don’t think twice about. We drove back to the family farm late and I went to bed like I had a hundred times before.

My next conscious moment was confusion.

There was a bright light in my face and my brother in- aw was standing in my bedroom. He’s law enforcement, so seeing him with a flashlight wasn’t unusual. Seeing him in my bedroom in the middle of the night was. Nothing about it made sense. I couldn’t piece together how I’d gotten from going to bed to him being there.

What I didn’t know until hours later was that I’d been having seizures right there beside my relatively recently named fiancée. Multiple. Long enough and bad enough that paramedics had been called and were already loading me onto a gurney.

I remember flashes of the ambulance. Pieces of conversations. Trying to understand what was happening while not really being able to stay present long enough to process it. Somewhere during that ride, I seized again.

Around 4 in the morning, after a battery of tests and drifting in and out, a doctor told me I had a brain tumor. Just like that. No buildup. No soft delivery. No real options. They were already deciding whether to do an emergency craniotomy right there or medevac me by helicopter to another surgical center.

They ended up keeping me local. Two brain surgeries followed. Treatments. Recovery that took longer than anyone could really predict. There were multiple points in that chain where things could’ve gone differently. Where statistically, I shouldn’t have walked away from it.

But I did.

Most days now I feel normal. Work. Responsibilities. Land. Life. But there’s always that awareness sitting in the background, that it wasn’t 100% resected, and none of this time is guaranteed. Everything since then has been time I wasn’t promised.

Call it luck. Call it stubbornness. Call it God.

Either way, I’m still here.

When you stop assuming you’ll wake up tomorrow, you start living in a way that makes it count if you don’t.
😱
 
Sheesh. Which one?

Fly fishing with my grandfather in a remote part of Alaska, we were wade fishing in nearly waist deep water about 50yds apart. A female moose with two calves wandered into the river to cross between us without realizing we were there… there was a Mexican stand off moment, but she decided we weren’t a threat and just moved along between us. Was too young to carry a backcountry pistol at the time.

Went to Mullet Toss at the FloraBama and after splitting a fifth of Captain Morgan with a friend decided to try and swim to the sand bar. Only to realize once we were in the water, there was a rip current happening. Thank God I had the wear withal to keep calm. Swam rested on my back, and kept moving parallel to the shore until we got free of the current. I was in excellent shape at the time and had been on a high school swim team. It nearly killed me.

Do not fuck with the ocean.

Had a sport bike for years. Rolled through a 90° right hand turn and jumped on the throttle too fast. As I went to shift from 2nd to 3rd, I realized my horizon line was off, and I had accidentally done a power on wheel stand.

Mountain biking in Colorado. I almost slid off the trail to carrying too much speed through a a corner. The drop was 30-40ft down. Hit the front brake as a last resort and got ejected off the front of the bike and stayed on the trail.

South Africa. We stalked a group of 3-4 buffalo from the edge of a field into very heavy brush. We were walking slowly and deliberately through the brush. All the sudden my PH stops and locked up like a bird dog, we nearly broke through the next thicket right into the buffalo we were stalking. Went to get into position to shoot right as mine took interest in our movement turning from broadside to facing us. Took the shot at 15yds (or less) off my PH’s shoulder. Adrenaline dumping through my veins the whole time. Definitely danger close.

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There are others - those are just some highlights.
 
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